Balance

I think we're all trying to find some sort of balance between all of the things that we like to do in life.

Between work, school, extracurricular activities, relationships, and the seemingly million other things that we have on our to do list...it feels almost impossible sometimes.

So how do we balance those things out?

You know, I don't really think that you ever achieve a perfect balance. See my issue is social media portrays these picture-perfect ideas of what life should look like. In a way I feel like it almost set you up for failure. Because that person is not you. And you're not them. Sure, you can admire the traits of another human and try to emulate them, but you may find that it's difficult for you to do exactly as they do. you may find you have to do things a little bit differently in order to achieve the same end goal.

That's not to say that you should give excuses or be lazy, but sometimes you have to ask yourself, "am I overwhelmed in this moment? and what can I do to step back in order for me to figure this out in a more efficient way?" That's what therapy is help me with. Being able to identify when I am at capacity emotionally has been life-changing. I'm able to actually communicate what I'm feeling to those around me so that it doesn't come across like I'm just ignoring my tasks and duties.

And of course you're gonna have to understand that not everybody is going to be on the same page as you. You're going to have people in your life that just don't get it and that's okay. If you're lucky enough, sprinkled throughout those type of people, you're gonna have people who completely understand and who when you have effectively communicated to them what you're feeling, they will take the ball and run with it in order to achieve the same Goal of balance.

It's all very personal, so if you're trying to figure out what the balances and should be in your life, just take time to really get to know what you are able to handle in any given day. Maybe even create a list of things you would like to achieve, but you have trouble achieving them. Then identify what exactly makes it so hard to get to that goal.

And as you do all of these things, please make sure that you give yourself, grace and kindness.

The world needs a little more kindness these days, and it starts by being kind to ourselves.

Catch ya on the next one.

Much love and Good vibeage,

Your Cycle Breaker Stephanie